Author: DIANA HEIDGERD

After the Affair: 6 Faith Strengthening Scriptures to Help Restore Trust in Your Union

Yesterday, I let you guys in on some of the crazy that happened to me and, quite honestly, some of the crazy that happens to anyone who finds their marriage embroiled in the aftermath of an affair. After the ugly crying and blame shifting were over, I could only do one thing, turn to God Keep Reading →

After the Affair: 4 Scriptures to Reignite Your Faith and Save Your Marriage

When a marriage goes through its ups and downs, where do you turn for guidance? I can honestly and wholeheartedly say to you that if it was not for my faith our marriage “Never Would Have Made It” through the storm! Glory to God our marriage not only survived the storm but we are lying under a Keep Reading →

Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Judge People Who Choose to Save Their Marriage After an Affair

Let’s keep it real. In today’s society, it has become way too easy to slap judgment on someone for just about any reason.  Now imagine having the label of cheater.  Maybe you are like me and know all too well what that feels like so you don’t have to imagine. Well, the flip side of Keep Reading →

11 Small Things That Can Break Trust in Your Marriage

Trust is the core of a marriage. A thriving marriage is built upon godly commitment. While every husband and every wife will surely make mistakes year after year, when those mistakes cause distrust to build, the marriage slowly erodes. Sadly, there are some who think they can keep from doing the “big” stuff that would Keep Reading →

Revenge Cheating: 5 Ways it Sabotages Both Marital and Individual Recovery

“Last night was well worth it!” Imagine reading this text message on your husband’s phone. How would you react? Well, I don’t have to imagine and I can tell you exactly how I reacted…minus the cuss words of course. Being cheated on can cause you to lose your religion! The interesting dynamic in our marriage Keep Reading →

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage By Guarding Your heart

In my most recent article 3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage and Win After an Affair, I shared how my husband and I had reached an impasse in our relationship. With each of us having forsaken our vows and engaged in extramarital affairs, things weren’t looking good for us and we had decided to Keep Reading →

3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage After an Affair

Affairs are messy. I’m not trying to be glib but for lack of a better word, messy just fits. Everything becomes a mess when a man, or woman, “puts asunder” what God has joined together in holy matrimony. When asked to write this article, I was first reminded of the fight of my life. My marriage Keep Reading →

30 Serious Consequences of Infidelity…Take Heed

Infidelity is by far one of the worst things that can transpire in marriage.  Trust me, I know from personal experience!  It violates everything built between you and your spouse in such a personal way.  Majority of us who’ve been cheated on didn’t see it coming…I know I was blindsided for sure! “I am deeply Keep Reading →

How to Forgive Yourself After Your Affair

Dealing with the guilt, shame and self-hatred or the flooding of negative emotions and feeling of self-worthlessness after the occurrence of an extra-marital or non-marital affair is no easy feat.  I’m speaking from experience, and this cycle of self-shaming could be as hindering on the marriage/relationship as the affair itself. Dwelling the on shame, instead Keep Reading →

The 4 Pillars of Trust that Must be Present in Every Relationship

Trust is the currency of every relationship, and just like money, it’s value could either depreciate or appreciate over time, depending on the events and/or investments made. Trust mimics this same attribute and, in this case, the investments are directly related to the actions and/or in-actions of both spouses in the relationship, which could enhance and Keep Reading →

Infidelity in Marriage: Here’s How to Rebuild Intimacy after an Affair

If I told you that the day my husband confessed his affair, we had sex the same night.  Would you believe me or think I was pulling one over on you?  Do you even believe it is possible to reconnect intimately immediately or does the thought of having sex so soon sicken you? Well, we Keep Reading →

The Movie Was Great, But Here Are the Real Women of “Hidden Figures”

Hidden Figures, is a bestselling biography entitled “Hidden Figures: The American Dream and the Untold Story of the Black Women Mathematicians Who Helped Win the Space Race” written by Margot Lee Shetterly. And it was recently turned into a Hollywood movie revealing the untold  true story of three brilliant African-American women, Katherine Johnson (Taraji Henson), Dorothy Vaughan Keep Reading →